Dealing with Sexual Dysfunction in Men

Irina Pino

HAVANA TIMES — Men don’t like talking about “this” even with their friends. They feel handicapped. They think that they have lost their masculinity and have stopped being men. Then, complexes and feelings of blame appear. Even so, they resist admitting it.

Many of us have run into people who suffer from sexual dysfunction. And our reaction is nearly always the same when we face this problem: to run away from the affected person.

Then we joke about it: “I left him because he was impotent, he’s really good-looking, but what use is that, I’d prefer him to be ugly and be able to keep it hard.”

I don’t know why men try to hide it. They hide behind silly excuses, that they are nervous or stressed, or that when we tell them to put a condom on, their member drops… these and other reasons stop them from having an erection, that’s what they say at least.

I have read that drug consumption is among the causes for erectile dysfunction. Heart disease and diabetes too. Generally-speaking, it originates from your physical state. There are men with this condition of all ages, even young men suffer from it.

I had a boyfriend with whom everything started off great but then, once he had his penis inside, he would lose his erection. He acted as if nothing unusual had happened. He used to tell me to move around a little bit and then he would get hard again, and would end up ejaculating.

I once met another guy who used to want to stick it in while it was still soft, and I told him no, that that was quite simply worse. And to top that off, the place he managed to get for our meeting was an empty apartment with a bed but no sheets, an old radio and stacked up furniture. This plus his impotency… a real disaster!

Sometimes, we women tell men that it is just a phase: “It doesn’t matter, this happens to everyone.” And then we follow it up with cuddling and kisses.

This isn’t a very good attitude to have, we have to face the problem and look for a solution. Going to specialists, doing tests… or going to a witch doctor if we have to!

I once had a boyfriend who was half impotent, because he had a leak in one of the veins in his penus. Everything was fixed with a surgical intervention.

When we met up after several years, he told me that he had gotten married and had a son. If I had carried on with him, we might have been the perfect couple because we had a million things in common and we used to get on really well.

Some of my friends have made fun of impotent guys and have told them to their faces: “You’re no good, you don’t work properly, you fix everything with your tongue…”

I think that sexual dysfunction in men can wreak havoc if measures aren’t taken. These men run the risk of being left or that their women find a replacement.