Pre-Fabricated Canons and Sexual Experiments in Cuba
Irina Pino
HAVANA TIMES — Of the articles I’ve read recently, one dealing with the plastic surgery procedures that both women and men undergo in Spain to aspire to better jobs as companies prefer to hire “young, beautiful” people that can attract customers and make business dealings more successful.
Certain areas of the body are enlarged, people are injected with Botox to remove wrinkles, hair is removed with lasers, teeth are whitened and a whole range of beauty treatments are applied to ensure the social integration of individuals (to find jobs, in this case).
People discriminate against the fat, the ugly and the old. Two fat people having sex are cause for laughter. The mass media work to establish what is valuable and what is not. Showing black nudes is not common.
The outer shell becomes the most important thing, spiritual values recede to the background and knowledge takes second place. Which is not to say that intelligence is the exclusive virtue of those labeled “not beautiful.” It varies.
I see nothing wrong in people wanting to feel good about themselves and working to raise their self-esteem, but I wonder how that would work in Cuba, where the possibilities of undergoing plastic surgery are limited. A friend told me that her husband had asked her to have her breasts enlarged (even though she didn’t like the idea one bit). When they found out the price, they ditched the idea, knowing they would never be able to come up with the money for the operation. She told her husband to look for a lover with large breasts, because she was staying with her two fried eggs.
He then had the idea of having a threesome with a voluptuous woman to satisfy his cravings. After something of an argument, they prepared everything for the adventure. Then my friend had another idea: adding someone else to the mix, someone who, following her fantasy, would have to be a long-haired man covered in tattoos. Of course, my friend’s husband didn’t accept the idea. The potential rival could lessen him in the eyes of his woman.
They agreed to have their affair separately. These arrangements can be made within an “open relationship” without them posing a threat to the marriage. They had heard some friends who had such a relationship say that.
After carrying out this sexual experiment, they continued in their relationship. She had a good time with her tattooed lover and he did the same with the big-breasted woman. However, they never felt fully satisfied with their lovers, confessing they didn’t click. They didn’t love those people, they didn’t even share any interests with them.
Fantasies can lead to disappointment. Illusion awakens desires, even though, on occasion, they lead to situations far removed from the original fantasy.
Other couples may have experienced just the opposite. There are no rules for desire, as there are no rules for the beautiful and erotic. There are multiple ways of seeing and feeling.
Yes the brain is the most important organ in sex,therefore when your brain wants big breast, your eyes will be looking for them.
No doubt it is useful to have knowledge of ourselves and, as part of that, knowledge of what we desire and why. But I do not believe that we can free ourselves from desire. We are living things and we naturally desire things to keep us alive. I have worked out of doors in the cold. The desire for warmth is universal and natural. Without such a desire we would die. I think the same could be said for hunger, of which I have very little direct experience.
Very true. Buddhist thought teaches us to eliminate attachments. Attachments lead to unhappiness
All phenomena are impermanent and we need to see it as such
Somehow, this reminds me of the insights of Buddhism. The lovers you mention are examples of those who are forever condemned to be slaves of their fantasies, which will never be satisfied; forever, they will be on the treadmill of their passions. Ditto for those enslaved to consumerism, for their satisfaction in buying something new is destined to be shortlived and unsatisfactory–at least until the next “fix!”
In the US, television personality Doctor Ruth used to say that the most important sexual organ is the brain.
I like big breast as most of men do. If some young girls believe large breast can bring them happiness they are entitled to do what they want, including going through a surgical procedure. Even though most of cases, the happiness is short lived. BECAUSE happiness comes from within, but again I say try everything if you think it gives you happiness, till you find out it doesn’t work…