The Bad Luck of Being Born a Woman

By Ammi

HAVANA TIMES – We are children of a patriarchal society, where gender violence, gender role abuse, and sexual abuse often pass unnoticed. Such happenings are painted over with stereotypes that focus on the wrong thing, always pointing fingers that severely damage the woman.

In these months of confinement, many women are living through a pandemic of violence within the pandemic. The backdrop includes a closure of schools, excess domestic work, the daily struggle for food and cleanliness. Together they produce an intolerant level of stress.

To this, women must then add physical, economic and psychological mistreatment from their partners and even their ex-husbands.

No shelters for women in Cuba

The year 2020 has seen tragic incidents of femicide that, according to the reports and files, have already claimed 12 mortal victims in Cuba. Macho violence persists unabated, and incredibly, there are still no shelters in Cuba to protect women.

A helpline isn’t enough to address such crises – priority attention is needed, with a social investigation that includes a door-to-door campaign.

One lost minute can be fatal. Civil society, the institutions, human rights activists, all of us will continue adding up the dead if the government fails to act. If the government doesn’t speak up and say “ENOUGH”.

On July 27, a woman died at the hands of her husband, together with her baby who was almost two. The press and the official media didn’t talk about this event. Up through today, they’ve said nothing. Shrouded in this atmosphere of complicity, the question echoes: “Could these deaths have been avoided?”

Meanwhile, in the deceased woman’s social media posts, three times you can read between the lines: “S.O.S”.


A related article to read: A Space for Women in Havana’s San Isidro Neighborhood


I’m a mother of four children who through perseverance, studies and improvement managed to improve her environment and I have learned that every effort is rewarded and knowledge is shared. For me there is nothing more important than freedom and especially that which is capable of breaking personal limits. I am considered a cheerful, enthusiastic, curious person, willing to learn from each new experience.

13 thoughts on “The Bad Luck of Being Born a Woman

  • August 22, 2020 at 8:35 pm

    Tom ,you’re a delusional and I believe a coward who thinks beating women and children are necessary ,anyone who thanks you for anything must be a fellow abuser or completely out of their mind.

  • August 22, 2020 at 8:30 pm

    So according to you Tom women desrve to be beaten,I can only imagine the Cuban woman you’re married to must be living in a hellish nightmare with you and is trapped by you because of economc issues.

  • August 22, 2020 at 8:27 pm

    Tom, you sound like an obvious failure with women, if a woman is inflicting paychological torture on you why don’t you just leave, is it because you won’t have anyone else to torment and abuse?

  • August 21, 2020 at 7:42 pm

    misogynist: a man who hates women
    adjective reflecting or inspired by a hatred of women: a misogynist attitude
    Oxford English Dictionary

    If the cap fits……………!

  • August 20, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    To Stephen, well said… however men are hesitant to write about their experiences as they will be branded as demonic by the leftist feminist movement that dominate this discourse!

    In everything being said here I still not have heard from a woman what is it they believe women do that make men snap and resort to violence..I note a lot of skirting around the subject but the women here are either gutless or so blind (likely the latter) to their own actions to point it out. Women need a massive mirror to find their Joharis Window! From my experience if women (especially white entitled North American women) are not fighting men, they are fighting each other. No wonder the men leave and find a lovely warm and always more attractive Latina / Asian. Ever seen a bunch of women in an office together…like angry cats in sack trying to escape… enough said!

    By the way the Singapore, Arab system of whipping works…I don’t see in the UAE or there a degenerate society like the USA that is sinking slowly but surely. Wait till your car in vandalised, or that young punk shoots up someone for a pair of shoes… You will say thank you Tom….

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