An Interesting Opinion on Mixed Marriage

By Ben Anson

HAVANA TIMES – “So… that girl’s going to get married to a gringo…” I said, whilst making conversation with an acquaintance of my age – as he gave me a lift in his Honda.

“Ese esta hasta la guaya.”

“This guy is finished with.” He responded; using a very Honduran saying.

He made me laugh a good deal.

I then – on collecting myself – as we sat in horrendous traffic, asked him why he was of such an opinion.

 “The ignorance of those guys from the north is tremendous,” came his responded.

I had him expand on that for me…

Whipping around a corner, he swerved and bombed his car about whilst chuckling and explaining to me why it was that he felt a female friend of ours was ‘entrapping’ her fiancé from South Carolina.

“Do you think that those ‘little Indian girls’ get married to gringos for love?”

Despite his insulting language, which is very common here funnily enough (the mocking of Indios or indigenous featured Hondurans) he may have had a point. I told him instead to give me his answer as to whether or not be thought it was done out of love or not.

“How is it that the majority of them meet their husbands then?”

“Go on…” I responded.

He continued, smirking.

“On the internet.”

A few seconds passed before he carried on.

“You believe that they’re going to fall in love texting and seeing photos?”

“I doubt it.” I replied.

The young man then went on to explain how as soon as the marriage papers are signed, the gringo’s life apparently becomes a misery. Money being sent back to the girl’s family in Honduras is a constant demand.

An aunt’s sick.

A niece needs new school books.

The mother wants money to apply for a visa to come visit her daughter in the US.

The whole family then wants a visa.

Birthdays.

Christmas.

Other holiday periods.

Somebody wants to build a house in Honduras.

Somebody else wants to study or take courses somewhere.

It took him a good five minutes to list everything off – that occurred to him.

I then asked whether he felt all Honduran women would behave in such a way. Surely, Honduran women and gringos have fallen in love – genuinely.

“Look fella, the little gringo falls in love with the idea of having an exotic woman – different to those from his country. The Honduran woman falls in love with the idea of not having to worry about money and being taken care of (in a financial sense) for the rest of her days.”

I was left with no other option than to ask him why he boasted such a strong opinion.

 “My sister bro. She got married to a Canadian and I swear to you that she made this guy’s life impossible. I give you one example – nothing more.”

I found the chat so intriguing that I found myself mentioning it later on to a female acquaintance of mine – married to an Italian. Done so vía a WhatsApp conversation.

“Complete nonsense. We are not all like he says. I think that when I met my husband, I had more money than him. He was always broke – the idiot.” She joked.

“I love him a lot. And if it wasn’t that way I wouldn’t have got married – that’s simply how it is.”

Ben Anson

“The moment that I disembark (from a plane), I notice that everything in my body and in my mind readjusts itself for me", so remarked Gabriel Garcia Marquez - when speaking of his relationship with the Caribbean. He felt the strongest physical and mental connection with this part of the world and deemed it as far as ‘grave’ and immensely ‘dangerous’ for him to leave its zone. Only here, did ‘Gabo’ feel ‘right’ in himself. Honduras, does for me - precisely what the Caribbean did for Marquez. A resplendent yet troubled nation, that I have been decidedly unable to part with ever since 2014. I thus seek to capture its essence through the written word.



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