By Irina Pino
HAVANA TIMES – It’s no coincidence that I consider myself to be someone who is open-minded sexually, free of prejudice, given the fact that I write about sex-related topics here on Havana Times, where I have a personal diary.
I love writing about sex, especially because the range of possibilities is endless.
It becomes an interesting event because of everything that it implies. I have been proposed all kinds of sexual encounters over the course of my life, some secretive and others by the book, without anyone else.
I was 14 years old when a neighbor approached me, he was a merchant seaman and had quite the reputation of being a ladies’ man. I was in love with him (at least that’s what I thought) because he was always on my mind.
I found him sexy, maybe because he was over 30 years old. That’s why I accepted an invitation to go to his house, to enjoy a cold cup of cocoa (supposedly). Of course, I was the chocolate.
In our youth, nearly every girl is beautiful, our flesh is firm and our skin is fresh which are a temptation in themselves.
Back then, it was fashionable to wear denim shorts with red hearts on the back pocket. I didn’t used to wear a bra and my erect nipples could be seen underneath my t-shirt. I was a piece of candy in other people’s eyes.
While sitting on the sofa in his home, he put a hand on my thigh and began to fondle me under my shirt with the other.
When I felt his touch, I didn’t say a word, I couldn’t do anything but head for the door and run away. Whenever I saw him on the street after that, I used to run away.
I had a harasser who used to come to library where I worked. With his great loquacity, he would talk to me about books, about his favorite authors, bla, bla, bla…
The third or fourth time he came, he told me his plans. It was really unpleasant because he was interrupting my work, telling me all the things he wanted to do to me with vulgar phrases. He soon proposed a trio. And innocent to the end, I didn’t know that this would be a crime.
He painted the picture as if it were the most natural thing in the world. I would set it up, I’d put the girl in sexy positions, so he could join in afterwards.
I remember the story of one of my boyfriends: he wanted me to sleep with his best friend. It would be wild and would take place at his “antro”, as he called it. He lived in a room in a garage. The place had carpet, was full of red lights and had air conditioning. There were posters of rock bands on the walls.
I wanted to experiment. All of that under the influence of tea of the angel’s trumpet flower, which was really popular back in the ‘80s.
A voyeur who we met on Santa Maria beach wanted me and my gay friend to have sex with a lesbian. He would watch us from behind a curtain. That curtain would have a small opening, allowing him to watch us. He just wanted to watch and masturbate.
When I was 21, my boyfriend at the time reserved a hotel room with another couple. Just one room. He said that it was to save money.
I went not suspecting that he was a swinger. Nothing happened until after we ate at the restaurant. When I left the bathroom, the other couple was already naked and having oral sex, while he was also naked and invited me to join the party.
Not too long ago, I had an experience with a swinger. He also writes and is a fan of my articles. I liked the idea of talking to a colleague. We went out for a coffee and he soon got to the point.
I went along with him, I even encouraged him as I was interested in getting to know his swinger friends, for research. However, I lost contact with him.
That person told me that his marriage had been based on these relationships, however, she didn’t want to do it anymore, she was rejecting it because it caused her trauma. But, she wasn’t stopping him at all. He is free to sleep with whomever he likes.
He has a lot of free time that he uses for this end. He confessed that he takes tranquilizers to control himself.
I don’t intend to judge anyone, and I’m not a nun myself, sex is a whole other world, everyone does as they please. But, it’s wrong to try and convince someone to do something they don’t want to or create unpleasant situations.